Friday, December 28, 2012

Six Years of You


Dear Claire,

I told you the other day that if I was in Kindergarten with you, I think I would have chosen you for my best friend. I like your ways, sweet girl. You are shy in public, but never at home and definitely not around your close friends. You watch closely. You make wise remarks. You ask insightful questions and like to listen to the answers. Sometimes you also just ask questions to keep the conversations flowing. I love to listen to you and Kennedy asking each other these type of questions, from "What do you like better a quesadilla or French toast?" to "What do you think runs faster a cheetah or a chipmunk? (followed by giggles)".

You are conscientious and can stick to a task for hours. The way that you will painstakingly work on a drawing amazes me and your dad. You remember every detail—a dog's tongue hanging out while it is running after a rabbit, a condensation trail behind Santa's sleigh, the exact slant of a peacock's eye (yes, you drew all of these pictures and many more). You rise early and start your day with art. The rule is you must produce two drawings before you can wake up mom and dad and some of your best work comes from these early morning art sessions.

You are taking the piano and just had your first piano recital. The piano is hard for you to learn and while practicing the other day you complained that the notes on the staff all looked like "lines and circles". They do, yet you stick with it and I love to see that furtive glance at me when you know that you have played a piece perfectly. Once you can play it perfectly, practice becomes a breeze. You like to show off what you have learned.

You really like us, particularly Kennedy. I hate to even think that there may come a time when you won't for awhile, but for now revel in the fact that you want us all around. I asked you one day what your favorite part of school was and you replied "homework". I liked to think that it is because we do your homework together. You miss Kennedy and me during the day, and maybe even David and we miss you. Kennedy cried inconsolably the day you started school repeating "And now I have NO ONE!".

You love your chickens: Speedy, Bubblegum, Silky and Whiskey Pete. You are the best wrangler in the house and when you catch them you give them lots of snuggles and kisses. You feed them our table scraps and laugh when they eat spaghetti which you think they think are worms.

You use prayers to preach to your younger sister with statements like, "If Kennedy is really sick bless her to feel better, if she is not bless her not to lie" and "Please bless that Kennedy won't get water out of the fridge during the prayer".

This was an easy year for you. There wasn't a lot of drama associated with five. Not many tears, except daily when we comb your hair. Not many angry moments, although you can perfectly replicate my too loud "Errr!" when you are frustrated. There was just a lot of growing up and becoming more of the sweet little girl you are.

I love you wholeheartedly, my little one.

Mom

Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Friday, December 14, 2012

For Hate is Strong

I've been listening to Christmas songs for weeks now, just wanting to fill my soul with Jesus and the peacefulness of His birth and His life. Unintentionally, I even quit reading the news and life has slowed down for me this Christmas season and grounded me to the real reason I celebrate. Today, I felt unwillingly catapulted back into the world and the brutality and hatefulness that exists. Today, a young man killed 28 people, including 20 children in an elementary school in Connecticut. It is unimaginable on so many levels and has happened too many times in our world.

After I heard, I came home and made sure all my doors and windows were locked and then pulled my little ones close to me. I hugged them extra hard, lingered with them over lunch and read every word and even added a few to their nap time books. I just wanted to treasure them. I just wanted them to feel safe and loved, even though they are unaware of what horrific events that occurred today.

Then I sat down to work, my mind still fixating on the sketchy details of the murder scene. I couldn't focus and kept thinking about how many in our world are "past feeling" and wondering what I could do to shelter my little ones from this reality. I turned back to my Christmas songs to seek some serenity. My mind was still running and despite the Christmas songs streaming, I couldn't focus on the lyrics but instead another stanza of a song filled my mind.

I heard the bells on Christmas day
Their old familiar carols play,
And wild and sweet the words repeat
Of peace on earth, good will to men.

I thought how, as the day had come,
The belfries of all Christendom
Had rolled along th’unbroken song
Of peace on earth, good will to men.

And in despair I bowed my head:
“There is no peace on earth,” I said,
“For hate is strong and mocks the song
Of peace on earth, good will to men.”

These last words kept filling my mind, “For hate is strong and mocks the song of peace on earth, good will to men.” I just had to sit there with that for a long time, think about it, and let it play over and over in my head. I had to agree that hate is strong and there are those that mock true seekers of peace and enduring happiness. There are those that are so "past feeling" that empathy, love, compassion, sorrow for sins and forgiveness are emotions that no longer occur for them. They are hollow. Their feelings shallow and only skin deep. They are obsessed with self, with vindication, with spite, with that which does not "live" and ultimately with hate. They have let these emotions run uncontrolled in their lives to the point that they are all encompassing. Before I could get swallowed up in worry and sadness about our world today and our future world, the next words of the song leapt loudly out at me.

Then pealed the bells more loud and deep:
“God is not dead, nor doth he sleep;
The wrong shall fail, the right prevail,
With peace on earth, good will to men.”


Till, ringing, singing, on its way,
The world revolved from night to day,
A voice, a chime, a chant sublime,
Of peace on earth, good will to men!

And again, the peace that only Christ, Jesus, can bring to my life returned. I breathed it in deeply. There is a plan. God will prevail. The power of love is immense and can heal lives, mend wounds and bring life. I'm so grateful for the Prince of Peace this day.

Monday, September 10, 2012

Flooded


On Monday, August 23, 2005 Hurricane Katrina made landfall in southeast Louisiana. It caused severe destruction all along the Gulf coast, but particularly in New Orleans where due to the storm surge and subsequent flooding the levee system failed causing even more disasterous flooding. Although New Orleans got much of the coverage, most of the beachfront towns in Mississippi were also flooded. Because of the massive flooding, towns became uninhabitable for months and in some cases years. The residents of these towns spilled into other nearby states and cities and Katrina became the largest diaspora in the history of the United States. The city hardest hit by receiving Katrina refugees was Houston, Texas which overnight had an increase of a 150,000 thousand people. Just three weeks later, Hurricane Rita destroyed Southeast Texas and the Louisiana Coast. The number of evacuees in Houston climbed to 400,000.

After Rita hit, the already overwhelmed city of Houston was bursting at the seams. Charities were overwhelmed with trying to service all the needs of the evacuees, many who left their homes with their entire extended family, friends and community with nothing but the clothes on their backs. Catholic Charities of Houston was one of these small charities trying their best to help evacuees, but inundated with the sheer number of people and the extreme needs of Houston's newest residents. When the Houston Rita evacuees returned to the their homes, a call went our from Houston Catholic Charities to Catholic Charities all over the US asking for volunteers to go to Houston to assist with the relief effort. The Archdiocese of New York was one of the first to respond. After receiving the request, my boss asked me if I would be willing to go to help in Houston and I jumped at the opportunity.

Like everyone else, I had been watching the news coverage of Katrina and Rita endlessly and wondered how I could help and what I could do. I sent money to responding charities, but that seems so distant and it is funny how after something like this happens, you want to feel close. By going to Houston, I felt close, really close, to the disaster. I've wanted to piece together my experience and the lessons I learned in Houston for years, after looking though my meager scrawled thoughts and worn out mementos, I wish I had done it along time ago. It was such a rich experience and so amazing to see how resilient, faith-filled and hopeful people can be under fire, that I am sad I have mentally lost pieces of it.

When the 11 NY volunteers arrived in Houston we went directly to Catholic Charities. We passed hundreds of people lined up surrounding the building and went to meet with the exhausted Director of the Hurricane Relief, who had been spending 20 hour days at work. She welcomed us with open arms and as she was trying to explain her gratitude over our arrival she started crying. She told us she was planning a funeral for an evacuee that had died since arrival in Houston. Later, she told me that when we arrived she felt like a cavalry arriving at the front lines when the troops were losing the battle.

Our Director quickly told us what we would be doing, everything thing from helping evacuees find shelter in the overwhelmed churches, community centers and homeless shelters and providing emergency gas and food cards to helping evacuees find work and relatives and to simply provide a listening ear. Within 15 minutes we were shuttled into our offices and started meeting with evacuees. We worked late into that evening that first night and still turned away many people.

The next morning, and subsequent mornings after, we were back at the crack of dawn to the office and there were already lines of people wrapped around the block, with many from the night before who had slept in their cars waiting to be seen. This sight greeted us daily for three weeks. The sheer numbers of people was overwhelming, but unlike the images I had seen in the media, the crowds were sitting it out in the heat were patient, hopeful, calm and so grateful for every little help offered. I was shocked to find that most of the evacuees seeking assistance from Catholic Charities were much like me. Many two income families that made just enough to get by, but didn't have much in reserves. Several weeks without income and no promise of it in the near future, while trying to start over again with NOTHING, had burdened them impossibly and their only outlet was to ask for others help.

Many people were ashamed, or embarrassed that they had to come. One of the first people I met with was a working class couple, who after receiving our meager assistance offered to volunteer with us in helping other evacuees. They promised they would tell their teenage son about what I had done for them and to be back the next day to help. They came back each day to cheer crowds, pass out water and do whatever they could to help out.

I met with a woman from Mississippi who had just returned from visiting her home that was nothing but debris. She said more devastating than that was that she could no longer locate her mother's grave.

An old man wandered in one day with binoculars. When we asked what he needed assistance with he said he needed glasses and that he had been using a pair of binoculars he picked up at a shelter to see for a few weeks since he evacuated without his glasses.

I met a couple who swam out of their flooded neighborhood, holding onto debris, who reported weeks later that they couldn't feel clean and felt covered in water all the time.

I met another woman who asked, "What is God trying to tell me?"

I met an elderly gentleman and his wife who came in needing to get their medications fulfilled without any knowledge of where their doctor was or any prescriptions. After we squared away their meds, the older gentleman asked me, "But what about my H?". His wife tried shushing him multiple times and turned red, but he kept asking about his "H". I finally figured out that he was talking about Preparation H. We took care of that too.

I met another family who had been waiting it out on their roof for rescuers. Apparently there had been a lot of contention on the roof, because after a day or two, the grandmother jumped off the roof into the water and started swimming. She told her astonished family that she couldn't stand being around them anymore and that she was going to wait it out on the church roof a block away, by herself.

After calling all the big box retail stores for donations, I turned away a man who needed money to buy an expensive tool kit in order to find work as an auto mechanic. I couldn't get my mind off him, so kept researching someone who could help and found a man half way across Texas, who was an auto mechanic himself and had felt so touched by the disaster that he had started getting donations from all his friends and had pieced together some tool kits for auto mechanics, knowing that they would need them in order to be able to work. By the next afternoon, he had a trucker friend drive the tool kit to our man in Houston.

A met two African American sisters who came in with a fussy, wealthy, white octogenarian. They were her home held aides in Louisiana and evacuated with her to Houston where they were all staying in a overburdened three bedroom home of their other sister, with 20 + evacuees. The elderly woman was quite a handful and very racist, which became apparent in minutes after our meeting. The sisters were so compassionate and even playful with her and didn't let her demeaning attitude get them down. They simply needed help finding her relatives and figuring out where she could go since she wasn't putting up with sharing an apartment anymore with "the help".

One surprising thing, to me and Catholic Charities Houston, was the huge groups of Vietnamese evacuees who came to request help. They came with stories of evacuating Vietnam in the 70's, with nothing, and then being helped by Catholic Charities to find work and homes in the South. When disaster hit again, the community remembered the services that Catholic Charities had provided for them and knew they would be helped again.

I met a man who knew no one in Houston and was staying in a shelter. At the time, we were providing bus or plane tickets anywhere people wanted to go out of the region. I asked him where he wanted to relocate and he said in broken English, "I go where is work".

I remember being told by our Director that the Discovery Channel had contacted her to find any "tragic and dramatic" cases that they might be able to interview. The staff all looked at each other with tears in our eyes and thinking how could we ever pick one that was more tragic or dramatic than another.

I remember many kisses, hugs, tears, heartfelt "God Bless Yous" from evacuees. I remember feeling the blessing of peace, comfort and the Spirit daily and such a harmony with the other volunteers. I remember cheering when we enrolled kids in school, found permanent houses or jobs for people or reunited people with relatives. I remember worrying that we wouldn't have the money to help all the people and somehow just when we thought we would have to turn away people, Catholic Charities would announce more donations. It was one of the most rewarding times of my life. I was rejuvenated by being there and learning that people are resilient amidst the most challenging of situations. I still can't believe that I worked and still work for a company that would pay my salary, my flight and my hotel for me to be able to go and help people that they have never seen in an effort that doesn't benefit their bottom line. It's true that disasters often bring out the best in people which is such a testament to why bad things happen to good people. It reminds us of our own interconnectedness, our reliance on each other, and moreover our reliance on the Lord.

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

The things you want to remember

One of those things I dreamed about before I had kids that turned out to be even BETTER than I had thought (unlike brushing my daughter's hair which I have already said is the most over-rated mommy-to-be dream) is reading books with my kids. I love to have them snuggled on my lap for book time pointing out things that they love and talking about what we are reading. We read religiously before nap time and bedtime and usually a couple of random times in the day when I just need to get my kids for a quick squeeze. We don't have a lot of toys in our house, but we've got the book and a few over-sized drawers littered with books. I like the one with life lessons and great pictures. The kids like the ones with Disney characters and funny enough they scary old classics like Hansel and Gretel and Rumpelstiltskin, much to my chagrin. We both meet somewhere in the middle for our favorites. My mom has some of our favorites books on her shelves that she keeps for when her grand kids come. I remember being read these books and learning to read on some of these books and I want my kids to remember the best books of our house too and maybe someday have them in their library to read to their kids. So here are my Top Ten in no particular order, but just books we love. I Love It When You Smile: All about a mom trying to cheer up her grumpy child, let me just say I can relate these days. Claire copied the front cover. What can I say? I think it is amazing for a five-year-old.
Knuffle Bunny: My co-worker, when I was pregnant with Claire, waited in line at the National Book Fair for over an hour to have this signed for me. It had me at Trixie going "boneless", not to mention all of the black and white photos of New York. Knuffle Bunny Too: We love the cameos from Mo Willems' other books, plus it is so fun to follow Trixie's adventures with her favorite plush toy. Cookies & Christmas Cookies: Two books about character with adorable images of children and animals making cookies. I swear just opening these books make your house smell more homey.
Barnyard Prayers: The pics alone make this a classic book, but it is so fun to explore what different animals think about and what their relationship with God would look like. You Are My I Love You: I dare you to read this without getting tears in your eyes and a smile on your face. It is us and them to a tee, moms. Chicken In The Kitchen: Every time I read this, I think that my grandma could have written this. Plus, it is dedicate to Lael, who never met a chicken she didn't love. With our own flock of chickens growing up in our backyard, we are feeling that these days. The Cow that Laid an Egg: Every pre-adoptive mother needs to read this. My kids don't understand it, but I love that I get to teach them over and over that a Mother is made by what she does, not because she is able to bear a child.
Good as Goldie: It is oh, so funny and because every word drips truth.
Koala Lou: A really astute mother gave me this book when I was pregnant with David. I am learning every day how wise this book is and how much my kids can relate to Koala Lou and how much I can relate to the mom being pulled in every direction.

Saturday, May 19, 2012

My Mother's Day Talk

Before I had children, I read a talk by Patricia T. Holland that taught me one very important truth about mothering. In the talk, Sister Holland points out that Eve was given the identity of “the mother of all living”—years, decades, perhaps even centuries before she ever bore a child. Her motherhood preceded her maternity. She further stated that she believes that the word “mother” is one of those very carefully chosen words, one of those rich words—with meaning after meaning after meaning. She believes that it is first and foremost a statement about our nature, not a head count of our children. I believe this too and I know that mothering is part of our divinity as women and is not determined by the amount of children we have.

I didn’t have my first child until I was 33, which is a little bit late by Mormon standards, but I did have the opportunity of working with and being around many children. First as a school teacher here in California and then later as a Social Worker in a foster care agency in New York City. In both jobs, I had experiences with children where I felt a connection and a love for them that was unlike anything I had previously experienced. I wondered at the time if I was feeling what it felt like to be a mother. I purposely remembered those feelings to compare them with the feeling I hoped to one day have with my own children and see if it was the same. I have since I have had my own children and they are the same feelings. Before I bore children, I had moments of mothering. I truly believe as Sister Holland has stated that mothering is part of our divine nature as women so to all who mother today in any capacity, young or old, with children or without, I wish you happy mother’s day.

When I was pregnant with Claire, I spoke to a friend of mine who was a relatively new mother and told her I was really worried that I didn’t know how to be a mom. She responded, “Your child will teach you how”. Over the years, I have learned the wisdom in this that you naturally, organically learn to be a mother, through the act of mothering and that children can be your best textbook. One of my first lessons as a mother happened a few months after Claire was born.

To preface, I am not the type of woman who falls instantly and madly in love with her babies. Don't get me wrong, I love them right off the bat and am happy they are around, but that magical connection/transcendent moment I imagined all mothers feel the moment their newborn babe is put in their arms just doesn't happen to me. For me, vibrant, teary-eyed, tender mother's love comes progressively through the act of mothering. I figured out the key to this one night when Claire was two months old. She was awake for a 2am feed. I was falling asleep nursing her, was completely exhausted, and couldn't wait to go back to bed. When she finished eating she wasn't ready to sleep, but instead wanted to frolic. I weighed my options: I could lay her down and let her cry it out, or I could stay up with her in her wee hour, happy hour. I decided to stay up with Claire and as I roused myself to play with her, a sudden gush of love for Claire filled my heart. Then it hit me, my love for my child grows exponentially when I serve them—any service works, but service when it is most uncomfortable, inconvenient or hardest to give works best. In that moment and in countless like moments since, I have learned that the more I push myself out of my comfort zone and as a parent chose the needs of my child over my own, the more I am rewarded by love for them.

In this way, our love as parents mirrors the love of the Savior for us. His love was born by his familial connection to us but was sealed by his sacrifice for us. I am sure as he gave all for us that his love grew exponentially for us. I believe he learned through his sacrifice a sure knowledge of just how much he loves us. I don’t think it is any mistake that the Savior himself uses the example of a mother’s love to give us context for the love He has for us.

Nephi quotes Isaiah speaking messianically, “Can a woman forget his suckling child that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? Yes, they may forget, yet I will not forget thee, O House of Israel. Behold I have graven thee upon the palms of my hands.”

He uses this example, I believe, not to point out that a mother could fail her child, but to point out how inconceivable it is that a mother’s love for her child could fail. The closest approximation that we have for the Savior’s love for us is the love that a parent has for their children. I believe that as we sacrifice for our children, we will resemble the Savior more completely.

Another pivotal lesson that I have learned as a parent came on Claire’s first birthday. When I went to lay her down for her nap. I held her for an extra long moment. My heart was filled with love for her and gratitude to my Heavenly Father for trusting me with her. As I held her, I started praying. I prayed asking Heavenly Father how to ensure that Claire would be happy. The answer remarkably and very quickly filled my mind, “Be happy”. I knew immediately what that meant and looked like for me. A little shocked that I had so clearly and quickly received the answer to my prayers, I asked Heavenly Father a second question, “How can I make sure that my daughter returns to you?”. The answer again lit up my mind, “Be consistent”. I again knew immediately what that meant. It means to be consistent in my love, my faith and my parenting. Since I was getting answers like I had never gotten before, I pushed my luck and asked Heavenly Father a third question but then got nothing. But, I am still grateful for the answers that I was given that day.

A third lesson that I have learned from mothering is that children, just like the Savior, are very forgiving. I am sure that every parent has had the experience of hurting a child, either accidentally or through bad choices. When this has happened to me, it amazes me the ease and speed at which my children will forgive me. At times, they will even comfort me while I am asking for forgiveness. Just as we seek their love, they seek our love and acceptance.

It is really hard to be imperfect as a parent and it takes a lot of courage to recognize and try to remedy our imperfections. There are days when parenting is overwhelming. And maybe it is on those days, when we are forced to seek out the Savior the most that our parenting can improve the most. Because on those difficult days when we are humbled and hollowed out by our circumstances, the Lord can teach our children, directly, through us, without our typical resistance.

My mother’s day wish for you today sisters, is that you will know deep down that you are doing God’s work when you mother. That you will know that he heartily accepts your efforts and is grateful for your diligence with His children.

Monday, May 14, 2012

Dave's Mother's Day Talk

Speaking on Mother’s Day is challenging. Why? It is difficult to express our love, adoration and honor for mothers without creating a fictional and mythical character for the women in the audience to compare themselves too. So, today, my mother’s day gift to all mothers is to blow up the pedestal on which this perfect and mythical mother stands. And tell a story about one of the greatest woman in my life. The story takes place in 1948. She is seven years old and it is the year my mother decided to take up RUM RUNNING. My mother grew up on the outskirts of Cardston, Alberta, Canada. Most of the kids at her school were "town kids" and grew up playing together, but my mom was a "country kid". There was a big distinction between these two groups and as a "country kid" my mom used the quarter she was given for lunch to buy the friendship of the "town kids". When the quarter revenue dried up so did her friends. She needed cash! It was rumored that Rose Kinnard, a variety store owner, gave an entire dollar to kids to run "an errand" for her. Some claimed that she was an alcoholic and that the errand was to go to the grocery store and buy vanilla that she would drink straight out of the bottle. One dollar would buy a lot more candy and friends than a quarter. She was scared stiff, BUT IF this clandestine operation were real, her drought of friends would be over. Now, mom wanted friends so bad that she once faked her own birthday party just to get kids to hang out with her. So for now she thought her integrity could wait, because she needed friends and the candy to buy them with. During school lunch, mom stood trembling in front of Rose Kinnard and nervously asked her if she could run "an errand". Rose smiled and said "Sure. All you have to do is take this note to the clerk at the Foodland. He will give you something in a brown paper bag. Bring it back to me and I will give you a dollar." Mom knew it was wrong. She could hardly breathe and could feel the warning pounding in her soul, "Don’t do it, don’t do it, don’t do it." Now, you are all probably thinking "This is the point in the story where she turns it around and makes the right decision". Nope, she did it. She wanted friends. It would be worth it, she thought. She gave Rose the brown paper bag and Rose handed her a dollar. Mom ran down the street to Ken’s Convenience Store where there was a staggering variety of candies. She spent so much time choosing the candy that when she started back to school she noticed lunch hour was over and there were no other students around. School had started and she was late. She couldn’t walk in tardy with a huge bag of candy and admit she had been on a "whiskey run". Mom determined that she would go to her Grandma Smith's home and pretend to be sick, after she had safely hidden her loot. The Cardston temple grounds were on the way and she thought would be the perfect place to hide all her unscrupulous loot. When she was satisfied that no one was watching, she hid all the candies in the bushes along the north side of the temple grounds. She practiced her sick charade and then went to Grandma Smith's house. The next day during lunch hour, mom went to retrieve her ill-gotten gains and reclaim her bought friends. To her absolute and total astonishment, she could not find one single piece of candy. No horseshoe suckers. No strawberry marshmallows. No root beer barrel candies. Not one single piece. She scoured the bushes repeatedly thinking they had to be there. No one had seen her, no one, she was sure of it. Nevertheless, she could not find a single piece of candy, not even a wrapper, or a sucker stick. She ran down the street to Grandpa’s lilac bush where she had stashed one more item. Her favorite root beer horseshoe sucker was also gone. She then rushed back to the temple grounds and frantically searched the hedges again only to come to the unbelievable realization that her total and complete hoard had disappeared! For weeks, she continued to search the bushes any chance she got. Finally, in her mind she resolved the whole affair by coming to the conclusion that the angels on the temple grounds had secretly confiscated all her ill-gotten gains to put an end to her life of crime. And, it worked, for the most part. My mother grew, got married and had ten children. She passed on some very good traits and some maybe not so good traits, either by nature or nurture. If you ever see Mark clawing at his head in frustration. That is from mom. If you have the chance of seeing me get fired up and on a rampage, this is from mom, too. In life, they say after 30 you are in many ways the way that you will be for the rest of your life. And while my mother did give up her life of crime she was a very fiery and often rebellious soul as she raised her ten children. Then in her 40’s she stopped being depressed about all her faults and imperfections and started to change. She also knew that there was little she herself could do to change her kid's rebellious little spirits, so she used a silver bullet. She taught her children the gospel and the mission of Jesus Christ. Above all, my mother taught us the Atonement. She has taught repentance, but much more powerfully she has demonstrated what can happen when the principles are applied to our own daily lives. I have watched as she has humbly reshaped, re-tooled, re-defined and, most importantly, relaxed though honest repentance. I am grateful for her rebellious little soul. I can relate better to a rebellious soul than one that is perfectly obedient, without questioning. Today, my first Mother’s Day wish is for all you mothers out there to know that we honor you. We love you. We are grateful to you for loving our children. Your love and charity is second only to God’s perfect love. Russell M Ballard said:
“I surely know that there is no role in life more essential and more eternal than that of motherhood. There is no one perfect way to be a good mother. Each situation is unique. Each mother has different challenges, different skills and abilities, and certainly different children. The choice is different and unique for each mother and each family. What matters is that a mother loves her children deeply.”
My second Mother's Day wish is for you all to know that a perfect mother is a myth a piece of fiction. The Atonement of Jesus Christ is the salve that is packed between all our imperfections as mothers, fathers and children. By repenting and relying on the power of the Atonement, we as families can together experience and know the Pure love of Jesus Christ. Alma 32:42 states, "And because of your diligence and your faith and your patience with the word in nourishing it, that it may take root in you, behold, by and by ye shall pluck the fruit thereof, which is most precious, which is sweet above all that is sweet, and which is white above all that is white, yea, and pure above all that is pure; and ye shall feast upon this fruit even until ye are filled, that ye hunger not, neither shall ye thirst." My mother “the Linda-hona of my childhood” taught me to take responsibility for myself and work it out directly with the LORD. There are times that I have forgotten this and also times when this knowledge has been life altering. As she would say, Repent! And LIVE. In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.